When a loved one has dementia, sometimes it can be difficult for us to think about what he or she can do, rather than focusing one what he or she can no longer do. The “can’ts” seem to be more obvious and intrusive to us than the “cans.”
As we provide care for our loved ones, it may seem quicker and easier to do things for them. We can wash the dirty glass more quickly, we can cross the room to get the TV remote more quickly (and safely), and we can help them bathe more thoroughly. It’s only natural to feel that way. But it’s important to remember that as much our loved ones have lost, there are still things that they can do. And the more they can still do, the longer they can maintain a bit of their independence and feelings of self-worth.
Here are six examples from Dan Lonigro, CPI Global Professional Instructor, of things that your loved one may be able to do:
- I can still smell the flowers. I don’t garden any more, but I can still smell the flowers. Bring me some of my favorite flowers. This will remind me of the past.
- I can still communicate. I can’t talk the way I used to, but I can still communicate. Be patient as I try. This will help me feel connected.
- I can still make decisions. I don’t have the judgment I used to, but I can still make decisions. Give me choices. This will make me feel like I’m a part of things.
- I can still wash my face. I can’t take a bath by myself anymore, but I can still wash my face. Assist me with direction. This will help me feel purpose.
- I can still sing. I can’t dance anymore, but I can still sing and enjoy music. Help me enjoy music. This will enrich my life.
- I can still move my body. I can’t walk unassisted anymore, but I can still move my body. Walk with me, and support me if I stumble. This will help me feel engaged.
Finding the Best Kalamazoo Dementia Care Services
Helping your loved one maintain a sense of independence, even for the smaller things in life, can go a long way in making life more pleasant for both of you. But caring for a loved one isn’t always easy, even if he or she can still do some things. And we can help you. Through our professionally trained staff members, Home Sweet Home In-Home Care’s Portage in home care and Kalamazoo dementia care experts provide senior care services, including Alzheimer’s and dementia care, and safety solutions, among others.
We are located in Paw Paw and St. Joseph, Michigan and provide caregiving services to older adults throughout Van Buren, Berrien, Cass and Kalamazoo counties in Michigan. Contact us at (269)-849-9252 or through our web form, and we will provide you with an in-home assessment to see how we can best help you and your loved one with dedicated Kalamazoo dementia care.